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Any fans of Jen Hatmaker? I loved her new book "Of Mess and Moxie". It seriously had me laughing and crying and having imaginary conversations with her in my head. I was listening to it on Audible so talking right along made perfect sense. Haha! There's one chapter in particular that I thought was so perfect for all of us here in the I Heart Oils community. We're all about creating a life we love, right? That means taking a proactive and creative approach to all areas of our lives. It includes those times when we are in a funk, out of sorts, down and out, or just BLAH. Jen calls those the doldrums. To be clear, she reminds us that these aren't times of serious trauma when more support and intervention could be required. Instead, these are the off and on low times where you don't feel like yourself.
I'm pretty sure we've all been there. Sometimes the doldrums can last a short time or sometimes it seems like it's taking FOREVER to feel like yourself again. Jen had some suggestions in her book for getting through them. These can feel SO simple to do. But, that's the whole idea. It's the small and simple things that really can make a difference. I'm sharing 4 of her ideas (paraphrased with my thoughts added in) then I'll add a few additional ideas of my own.
Jen Hatmaker's Tips for Getting Through the Doldrums
1. Mind Space
Make a to-do list of all the mind-jumbling, unfinished, small tasks that you are behind on. These are the minutia, the mundane, the things that circle round and round - make a dentist appointment, find that receipt, send in the money, return the voicemail, mail that package, etc. These little things are draining you. Just start crossing these little things off one-by-one.
2. Physical Space
There is something so cathartic about getting rid of clutter. It sounds silly, but it really works. Clean out a drawer, a closet, or your purse. (Click HERE for a list of simple decluttering ideas.) Anything to help you feel proactive and bring some order to your life. If you need help, ask for it! Sometimes you just need more support to get things done. Don't be afraid to ask for it. Who can you ask? Start with the people living in your household. Create a simple system. What can you simplify or systematize? For example, Mondays clean bathrooms, Tuesdays mop the floors, etc.
3. Emotional Space
Choosing to look for the good instead of reacting to the bad creates healthy emotional space. Jen made a "brag board" for her family to help everyone start focusing on the positive instead of the negative. Great idea! You could do this as a gratitude journal or a blessing jar too. Just start noticing what is going right in your life and the lives of those you love and capture it somehow so you can return to it when you need a lift.
4. Heart Space
Make a list of practices or small things that make you feel good and happy. Find a way to bring them into your life. What is on your joy list? Can you create time to do at least one thing on your list a day? What are some of the things that make you you? What is something you used to do but haven't in a while? What do you miss? Give yourself permission to seek after the good things. Cook a nourishing meal, exercise, read a good book, pray, meditate, etc.
Aren't those great tips? I love them! Need more ways to get motivated? Here are a few ideas for additional support as you work on Jen's four doldrum busters.
A Few More Ideas for Getting Through the Doldrums
- Use a Timer I like the Mel Robbins concept of setting a timer for 5 seconds. 5,4,3,2,1 - when the timer sounds, you get up and go. Just do the thing. Often, once we get started, it's no big deal. If you want, you can reset the timer for 5 minutes (or however long you have) and work on the task until it rings. You'll be amazed at how much you can accomplish in a short amount of time.
- Up Your Nutrition Get in some fresh and colorful fruits and veggies for instant energy. Too tired or down to chop? Make it simple for yourself. Most grocery stores have veggie trays in their deli section. Keep one in your fridge and pull it out before meals and snacks. I love doTERRA's plant based Lifelong Vitality Supplements. They are a great way to help support yourself through the doldrums.
- Work Through Your Moods Essential oils are a fantastic support for mood management. The Emotional Aromatherapy line is a great way to start. Blends such as Peace, Motivate, Cheer, Forgive, and Passion help you connect with the desired emotions. For example, you could choose Motivate before you tackle your to-do list. Try Forgive to help release any tensions while cleaning out your closet. Cheer can help increase your gratitude and positive thinking. And, you could choose Passion as you discover your JOY list and the things that make you happy. In addition, many single oils or other doTERRA blends can be supportive. Peppermint can be energizing, Wild Orange lifts your mood, Balance Grounding Blend creates a sense of peace and reduces anxious feelings. Just start experimenting with your favorites and how they can help you.
- Get Enough Sleep Research continues to show how important adequate sleep is for not just our physical health, but also for our mental well being. Get some great tips about supporting healthy sleep habits HERE.
- Start Small Don't set huge tasks for yourself. If any of the above suggestions sound overwhelming, ask yourself if there is a smaller way to start? For example, can't bring yourself to cook a whole meal? Try eating ONE piece of fresh fruit or veggie. Can't tackle a whole closet? Can you start with straightening 5 hangers? The way forward is through small actions. It's okay to take baby steps.
Finally, I'd love to share an audio clip from Jen Hatmaker's "Of Mess and Moxie".You'll get to hear a snippet of the book in Jen Hatmaker's voice. So fun! Listen HERE.
Want to listen to the entire book? If you aren't an Audible Member already, go to audibletrial.com/hatmaker for a free 30 day trial that includes "Of Mess and Moxie".